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Expectations
By karen | January 20, 2007
“Don’t get your hopes up”
That is about the most pathetic and disempowering advice there is. Is there any other phrase in the English language that can deflate your dreams and discourage your aspirations as quickly as “don’t get your hopes up”?
Imagine this. You’re trying something new. You’re excited. You are brimming with the possibilities and reveling in the excitement of this new wonderful and delicious thing and some well-meaning but completely misguided naysayer comes along and proceeds to irrevocably rain upon your parade and make sure that your excitement bubble is completely burst by saying “don’t get your hopes up”.
Your tummy gives a lurch. Your mind sees the possibilities of defeat that were not seen before and all of a sudden your power is gone. Gone. Gone.
Yes, of course you should ignore them. Of course you should not listen. Of course, you should not hear of how they think you might fail. Of course, they don’t know what they are talking about. Of course they are not you. Of course, of course.
But it’s too late. The seeds of doubt have been planted. The best you can do now is to not engage in those thoughts and definitely do not let those thoughts grow.
You can play it safe in life. You can never get your hopes up so as to never be disappointed. You have the choice to live like that. But disappointment over something that you wanted that didn’t quite work out is not nearly as bad as regret for not even trying. You’ll get over the disappointments of life but you may not recover from the regrets.
Get your hopes up! Dream the big dream. Believe that you can have the best in life. Don’t be afraid of a little disappointment. But do be afraid of a big regret.
Live life to the fullest. That means high expectations, high hopes, and big dreams.
Life will bring you what you ask for. Have high expectations.
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January 27th, 2007 at 4:46 am
Yes!!!
I agree with you, that is the most pathetic and disempowering advice!
Here is another one, love.
“Aim high in life, but do not expect much. Lower your expectations…”
Oh! What an advice, and there are more. These kinds of advice do not come from the kindergarten, yet from the gardens of information by the highest authority on the subject, who are distinguished experts in their own fields.
Hi Karen Lynch,
I share your observations and feelings.
Therefore, I am confident you have a role to play, a prominent one, indeed.
Please Karen Lynch, share information with us, so that we are able to wish again, to dream empowering ones, to be enthusiastic all the time, with passion that enable us to explore the sky is not the limit, instead to pursue beyond the universe into a quest and conquest of the unknown frontiers, with a define that is refine of our magnificent obsession in life most wonderful opportunities. Inspire us to solidify our hopes again, and encourage us with the persistence to keep on keeping on with continuous increase in our expectation. Enjoying moments of patience, while knowing very well, what we sow so shall we harvest - plus the gestation.
Most important of all, Karen Lynch, share the way so as every huwman (w added as a respect for woman) on earth may perform magic at will - Reticular Activation System - and experience miracles in every moments of our life.
With such an abundance, an individual, within our people in the whole society, shall uphold the vision with believe and have faith too, so much so, we respect and honor each other’s bounties through performing real magic, rather than, “since I cannot make so from you I take?” mentality.
In addition, individuals from all corners of the world shall begin to innovate again, to invent, products and services of high quality and high quantity, sharing values and opportunities, to open up fields of numerous works, and loving them, and be in continuous progress, thus having the habits of - give and receive, the more we give the more we receive, and the more shall we give more, some more…
I believe in you and your sincerity in sharing all these information, with such a high level of wisdom.
I know this, for I have browse pages of those experts and coaches, giving such an advice, until I begin to easily distinguish all into 1) program pioneers, 2) information assemblers (cut n paste), and 3) others.
Of course! Most of them should opt for the path above any of the many, which are off-course.
Karen Lynch, it is still early, and you can make a difference!
Sooner better than later, the audience shall know, and be encouraged to decide and choose, the best, from what you are offering here, so that each shall experience his or her total life on the peak of total success now here and here after.
Let us all be alive, and live our life to the fullest, and living it as lively as liveliness can be. Yes, this means high expectations, high hopes, and big dreams.
You are the person, this is the page, “Live the Power”. Together we shall invite one by one from the expert ezine@rticle authors to join force with you. What an awesome power that shall be, from the point where you are at, thus we shall expand and extend to occupying the entire cyber space, and the whole worldwide.
Wow!
Zubli Zainordin
Pioneer
The Art and Science of Total Success
January 27th, 2007 at 5:32 pm
Wow, Thank you. I am honored and humbled. Thank you for your visits here.
January 28th, 2007 at 7:26 am
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July 22nd, 2007 at 6:19 pm
Great points. I digg it!!!