Love Goggles and Appreciation

A few days ago I wrote my first guest post for another blog. Alex Shalman
asked me to write about attracting a relationship. I came up with a post entitled
“The Broken Myth of Relationships”. In that post I addressed the fact that we do not need a relationship to “complete” our lives but rather to “enhance” our lives.

Today I want to address that enhancement part of the equation just a little bit.

I have a theory about relationships. When you first meet someone, it is all magical and wonderful and this person makes your heart flutter and all of that. You don’t see any flaws and everything is just perfect.

And then the Love Goggles come off.

It usually takes around 18 months or so and then you really start getting to know the other person. All of a sudden you can see the flaws, you can see the imperfections, you can see that they are just human.

It’s what happens after the Love Goggles come off that determines a loving, long-lasting relationship. If your relationship can last after those love goggles come off, you have Love, real Love.

In the best relationships both parties give more than they ever take. Each party gives 110% to the other person and to the relationship not out of a sense of obligation or guilt or any other negative emotion but because of Love. You give to this person because you want to, because you love this person so you give of yourself, your heart and your soul.

Sometimes one person has to carry more of the load but as long as you are working together and you trust that each is doing their part it’s okay. That is life.

And the life you build together is better and sweeter than anything you could have done alone.

For me and my husband the Love Goggles came off over 14 years ago. We were blessed. When the goggles came off we still had Love.

Every day I tell Kevin “Thank you for being my husband” and every day I hear that same appreciation back.

Yes, a great relationship does enhance your life.