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The Gift of Selfishness
By karen | June 6, 2007
I know we don’t often think of selfishness as a gift. The word has a negative connotation of someone who only thinks of themselves, someone who doesn’t care about others. Often the word is used by controlling people and manipulators because it tends to evoke feelings of guilt and unworthiness.
But think about this. The best gift you can give the people you love and others is the gift of yourself. And the best gift of yourself is “You” at your best, on top of your game, happy and joyful, loving life, accomplishing and creating the life that you want. When you are at your best you see others at their best. You have an expectation of their success and they are able to reach for their best also. Everybody is happier and better off.
But in order to be at your best you need to be selfish enough to take care of your own connection to Source, selfish enough to attain and maintain the good feelings and the joy in life for yourself, selfish enough to protect your own energy so that you have something of value to give away.
Sometimes that means taking the time for some rest and relaxation, taking the time for some “extreme self care”, taking the time to do the things that bring you back to the good feelings. Sometimes that means being selfish enough to tend to your own needs and to allow other people to tend to their own needs for a bit.
Nobody benefits from a martyr. The paradox is that when you give so much to your family, your job, your friends, and your life that you no longer feel good yourself, you deplete your own energy and you have nothing left to give. If you start giving away so much of your own energy that you start feeling resentment then the energy that you do give to others really becomes toxic. And that is not what you want to give.
What you really want to give is the best gift, the gift of the best You. Everybody then benefits. The example you set is one of Joy and Love and your world is a better and happier place because of it.
But you have to be selfish enough to do it.
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This post has been included in the Carnival of Positive Thinking June 17, 2007, located at WidowsQuest.com
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June 17th, 2007 at 4:07 am
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