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Resisting Your Dream
By karen | October 18, 2007
Yeah, you hear that and the first thought is often….
And what is that thought?
I’ve noticed that oftentimes the things that we want most in life are the things we are the most resistant to. For some people (many people it seems) it is the great relationship. I even heard an extremely well-known Law of Attraction teacher (famous, very famous, much more famous than me– of course, I am not famous…) actually ridicule out loud the concept of a “soul mate”. Well, since I am married to my best friend and I often refer to him and he to me as “soul mates” we disagreed. We didn’t resist the concept of “soul mates” and we have a happy and joy-filled relationship.
You might even say we are “Soul mates”.
I don’t recall ever having any “role models” for great relationships. I didn’t see any truly great relationships. There was no evidence in my life that great relationships even existed. But it never occurred to me that I couldn’t have a great relationship. I just always thought I would. I did try and fail miserably in the marriage thing once but the second time around I allowed it in. I got what I wanted.
I didn’t have any resistance and the Universe gave me my wish.
I heard a wonderful story about asking the Universe for what you want and allowing it to manifest.
Think about going to a fine restaurant, you peruse the menu and the waiter takes your order. You sit quietly at your table for just a little while and there is your meal, exactly as you ordered, exactly what you wanted.
But what if you didn’t trust the restaurant, or the waiter, or the chef? You place your order and then before the wait person can leave you say “now did you get that? Did you remember that I wanted my steak cooked medium?”
“yes, yes”
“okay”
A few minutes later the waiter comes by and you stop him and ask “now where is my food? Do you remember that I wanted the salad dressing on the side? Do you remember I wanted my steak cooked medium? Go check on my meal!”
“okay”
A minute passes by and again you are thinking “where is my meal? did they get my order right? What if my steak comes back and it is cooked well-done? What if they put the salad dressing on the salad instead of the side? What if they bring me the seafood platter instead of the steak? Maybe I’ll just go and check with the chef.”
So you go on up and check with the chef. “Do you have my steak ready? You’re preparing my meal aren’t you? Did the waiter tell you exactly what I wanted? Is it ready yet?”
(Do not try this at any restaurant anywhere, ever! Do not offend the Chef!)
The chef replies, “Just a few more minutes” as he mumbles and grumbles under his breath and considers many different ways to plot revenge against you.
So you go back and you sit down.
The waiter comes by again and you stop him and ask “did you get my order, is my food done yet? Now did you get it right? Should I make another list of how I wanted my steak? And my salad dressing? And did you make sure and tell the chef everything I wanted? Maybe I should tell you my order again. I wouldn’t want you to get it wrong”
And on and on you go.
You get the point.
Yet, for the things we want most in life, is this not how we often deal with the Universe? We ask and rather than letting it go and allowing it to come to us, we ask again and then we ask again. We think we must clarify our wishes so we do that and we ask again. We change our minds. We decide that we don’t really want it anyway (even though our vibrations are saying otherwise). We wonder why it’s not happening, over and over. We think “oh, I don’t believe that I can have this in my life! I want it so, so bad, why can’t I just have it? Now, now, now!”
We keep stirring the pot, (if you keep stirring, it won’t boil!) never allowing what we want to actually happen but fretting and brooding and believing we must take more and more actions, doing more and more things, making lists, making more plans, developing more strategies, criticizing ourselves for not having achieved anything yet and giving up the faith that it can ever happen for us.
In other words, we are just Resistant. And so long as we are resistant, we don’t “Allow” it to happen.
In a line from one of my favorite movies, the star of the story goes to see her wise and beautiful Great-Grandmother in Mexico. The wise and beautiful Great-Grandmother says “you foolish girl, you think you know better than Love”.
And that is often what we do with the things we want most. At some level we don’t believe that we can have what we want unless we “do it ourselves” , we are foolish and we think we know better than the Universe.
The Universe knows the best way to bring you your dream.
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Topics: The Law of Attraction, Deliberate Creation, The Art of Allowing |
October 18th, 2007 at 8:17 pm
Oh boy - wonderful post… I especially loved the waiter story, because it shows just how silly we can all be sometimes.
All we gotta do is get out of the way!
October 18th, 2007 at 8:23 pm
Yes, so true….
we just have to get out of our own way! and allow!
Thank you for stopping by!
October 19th, 2007 at 1:42 am
This is the real trick. I was a notorious pot-stirrer, a professional toe-tapper. I’ve been trying to move towards surrender this summer by letting go of how and when. It sure is easier some days than others though.
(It’s after midnight and I’m trolling my favorite happy sites because the “when, when, when?” was getting to me. So thanks for this post!)
October 19th, 2007 at 8:12 am
It definitely is easier some days than others…
we all have those times when we think, whew, I’ve got it all wrong I must do this, I should do that….I think a clue may be when you are feeling that “desperate” feeling of “I must stir the pot” then you are on the wrong track but if you are feeling empowered, joyful, happy and excited it is “inspired action”
Okay, I’ll stop now, getting way to deep for a comment—-this is stuff for another post!
Thanks for reading Kimberly–Sending you my Love and Gratitude!
October 19th, 2007 at 1:47 pm
Karen… are you watching me??? That restaurant analogy is exactly how I can be with my orders to the Universe! Just add in going up to the chef every five minutes to change my order, and it’s an exact picture!
Thanks for the lesson and the reminder.
October 19th, 2007 at 1:47 pm
Of course you’re famous, Karen! People all over the world know who you are.
I like the restaurant story. I usually don’t put what you’re saying in terms of resistance, but have found it to be true. The things we keep niggling at are the things we can screw up, while if we just put it out and let go, things are more likely to work out.
October 19th, 2007 at 1:53 pm
I am watching you Lyman!! didn’t you know…..
Not really, but I know that there are a few things that I absolutely resist over and over again and I have a hard time letting go….
It’s just the letting go thing that I think many of us have…..
October 19th, 2007 at 1:56 pm
Rick,
Well Thank you!
The guy I referred too though is not only famous but also bringing in the Bucks! Big time!!
Lots of money flowing into his life……
(is that my own resistance showing it’s head?)
Call it resistance or something else….
it is just semantics!
the stuff we mess with and can’t let go of are the things that we won’t allow!
Thanks for stopping by!
October 19th, 2007 at 2:46 pm
Great post, Karen. Getting past the resistance can be quite the challenge. I’ve learned that if I take a look at my life, and see what it is that I want that I don’t have yet, there’s resistance there on my part!
Belle
October 19th, 2007 at 4:19 pm
Thanks Belle,
Yes, getting past whatever is stopping you from allowing it in…….
(we all have our issues, don’t we?;D)
October 22nd, 2007 at 4:46 am
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October 26th, 2007 at 1:25 pm
Hey
Karen , thank you for this post.
Am trying to find love, soul mate .
So what you say is very pertinent to me right now.
May be you can write something on manifesting the soul mate as husband.That would be awesome
Thank you.
October 26th, 2007 at 2:08 pm
Manifesting a Soul Mate as a husband…
hmmm….
Well, that is something I have accomplished in my life….
(I am blessed!)
October 31st, 2007 at 10:53 am
Karen, I have been married to one of my soulmates for over 35 years. I believe we have more than one out there that we travel through lifetimes together. An Indian astrologer told my friend and I that we were soul mates who have been in many lifetimes together. This time we are just friends, not lovers, not spouses, not mother and daughter.
When my friend came to me about 8 months ago and said she had a dream that she and I were going back to India for our 3rd trip together, I smiled and told her that if her dream was true, the Universe would work out all of the details and the trip would happen. Money for the trip started flowing in. I found out in plenty of time that I needed to renew my passport which would have expired in February, too close to our trip so I needed to renew it instead of waiting for it to expire. I found this out by watching Jeff Goldblum on a talk show talking about a recent trip he had made in which he didn’t know about the expiration date having to be more than 6 months away from the dates of your trip. He went to the airport to get on the plane and couldn’t because of the expiration date. He was blessed in that a well-known official was there who got his passport instantly. Without that show and Jeff sharing his experience, I would not have been able to make my flight.
When we allow the Universe to take care of the details, it does an exceptional job, if we let it.
October 31st, 2007 at 11:24 am
It really does do a better job than we can even imagine….
I’m working on a post today about just that kind of experience…
Thanks for stopping by