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Manifesting a Soul Mate
By karen | October 31, 2007
Halloween 2007, today I attended the ***elementary school Halloween parade. It was awesome. I especially liked the girl dressed as a hot-air balloon, the boy dressed as a bunch of grapes and the little girl who was Cindy Lou Who, but my very favorite of all was the Hannah Montana Vampire. I liked her so much I brought her home with me! I think I’ll take her and that cute little evil witch, and that absolutely adorable Ladybug trick or treating tonight. I’m looking forward to the fun!
So what were we talking about again?
Oh, I remember. I promised to write about how I manifested my soul mate. That would be that man who is going with me and my cohorts as we go trick-or-treating. On Halloween, he is known as “SuperDad” and I am “SuperMom”. It is so great we don’t even have to dress up!
I am so blessed. This is the life I wanted. I am grateful and happy now.
But there was a time when I didn’t know if I could have this life. I was a single mom for 7 years before I got remarried. We did date for over 2 years before we got married so I guess I was only alone for 5 years. It wasn’t always easy. I was lonely and I didn’t know if I would ever meet someone. And I really didn’t want to do any of the regular type stuff to try to meet someone. As I look back now I can see how I attracted what I wanted when I was ready. When I was ready to meet the right person, he came along and I didn’t even have to try and find him.
See the general consensus from the advice-givers (you know, everyone from your mother to your co-workers to the neighbor next door) was to get out there and try to meet guys. In my part of the country that usually meant either going out to the bars or going to church. Neither one of those activities appealed to me. Not that they can’t be fun and that they don’t have their merits but it’s just not for me. It always seemed incongruent to me to try to find the kind of man I was looking for at a bar. I mean after all, I wanted a family man, not a bar-fly. And the majority of the churches in my area would give me the other extreme. I knew I didn‘t want that either.
So, I didn’t date much. Most of the time, I would rather stay home with my son than go out so that is what I did. Based upon my “action” steps, the chances I had of meeting a man were “slim and none”.
But I still wanted this great relationship. I wanted to be married. I wanted a family. It was a process throughout the whole time I was single but I was launching big rockets of desire for what I wanted. One of the things I wanted was to find someone who I loved so much that I would live with him in a tent. (I wrote about that previously at A Love Story and the Law of Attraction).
I was also a “Mom” and I really thought that was a great gig. Yes, I still love that Mommy job! So I wanted someone who would love and care about me and also love and care about my son. I was a package deal, Love me, love my kid, period.
You can see why I wasn’t sure it would ever happen.
But I was already familiar with the Law of Attraction and visualizing so I thought I would try to visualize this person. Well, it is not always easy to visualize an abstract concept. I couldn’t see a face, of course, but I did get to the point just a month or so before I met Kevin where I felt like I could “feel the energy” of the relationship. I can describe it that way now but at the time I just thought I was being silly and imagining something that would never happen. That only happened one time and then I stopped trying to visualize it. I thought maybe I was just being silly and foolish and the “dreamer” that people had always told me I was. I gave it up.
But actually I think now that the “giving up” was the turning point. I became completely detached from even finding a date, let alone a husband. I decided that I would be just fine if I never got married again and I would live happily and create a great life all by myself. I know now that there is a big difference between just saying you are “detached from the outcome” and really feeling “detached from the outcome”. In this case I really let go of any let go of any attachment I had.
About a month later, before Thanksgiving 1991, I attended an early holiday party put on by a Title Company. It was during the day and I just went with a friend. There was this absolutely gorgeous guy sitting at the table with some other people I knew. My friend talked to him but I didn’t because I was too scared. I didn’t often meet anybody that I was so immediately attracted too and I didn’t know how to handle it.
So I watched him over the next few months. I talked to him a few times, just a little bit.
Then one Sunday he came into the office and I was the only one there. We started talking, it turned out that we had quite a bit in common and I felt safe and happy and comfortable with him from then on.
Our actual first date was on Valentines Day 1992 (I know so romantic, and I’m not even a romantic kind of girl–many novels, no romance novels for me!) We got married on July 3, 1994.
We now have five 5 kids, (that would be one each and three together), one grandchild, 1 dog, 2 cars, and a nice house in a cul-de-sac.
And we are both still chasing our dreams (and each other)!
Yes, I am blessed. I am grateful. I am lucky to have this man in my life.
And now I’m off to trick or treat.
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November 1st, 2007 at 4:20 am
Karen,
What a beautiful post!
Thanks for sharing something so dear and so private with us.
Congratulations on the materialization of such wonderful reality. It really feels good from here.
November 1st, 2007 at 6:29 pm
I like it. Great post Mom. I love you.
November 1st, 2007 at 7:26 pm
Thanks Patricia. I guess I just wanted to show that great love really can happen!
November 1st, 2007 at 7:26 pm
Tim,
I love you too! (first comment on your Mom’s blog–very cool!!!)
November 1st, 2007 at 9:08 pm
What a lovely post, how romantic
thank you for sharing, it is nice read
and something refreshing.
Love,
Gamy
November 1st, 2007 at 9:26 pm
Thank you, Gamy
November 2nd, 2007 at 4:44 am
Karen, your beautiful story certainly gives us singles hope!
Strangely enough, not even so much for the idea of finding a soulmate out there, but for the greater gift of happiness that surrender brings.
That resonates deeply within me, especially since I am learning now to fall in love with myself first.
Love,
Pippa
November 2nd, 2007 at 8:06 am
Pippa,
I think that really is the key Surrender to what is and what will be and developing the most important relationship that you have–the one with yourself.
thanks for stopping by. I’m glad you enjoyed the story.
November 3rd, 2007 at 3:58 am
what a sweet story. You are very lucky to have found love again and keep it.
November 4th, 2007 at 9:07 am
Thank you , Grace
December 27th, 2007 at 10:35 pm
Karen,
Thank you for such and insightful and honest post. I really like the advice that Marci Shimoff gives in her new book Happy for No Reason. Her free audio there also has some great advice on love, happiness, and the Law of Attraction. Worth checking out when you have a moment. Happy New Year!
February 13th, 2008 at 12:23 pm
ok manifesting a soul mate is one interpretation…coincidence that you both happened to be in the office on sunday and started up an unpressured conversation that wouldn’t have happened otherwise is another…
if you had become detached from the outcome and remained single for the rest of your life, you might be writing a very different post.
February 13th, 2008 at 12:24 pm
PS
my fave law of attraction stuff is at
http://www.abraham-hicks.com/
February 13th, 2008 at 12:46 pm
Coincidence?……Some would say there are no coincidences….
Abraham is also my favorite LOA teacher. I listen, read and learn everyday from Abraham.
My vision board has a quote from Abraham….
“You Can Have Whatever You Want in Your Life…
It’s Just a Matter of Allowing it to Happen!”
Perhaps the detachment was just a way of “allowing it to happen”…..
detaching from the outcome does not mean you give up your desire…Abe has said that you will always have more and more desires and that you can’t go back without “paddling upstream”.
Conversation is fun! Thanks for stopping by!
May 7th, 2008 at 7:32 pm
I love all coincidence stories (this one is no exception) and have just started to look into cosmic “oneness” and collective unconscious theories. This stuff is so powerful! I have found this since embarking on a very personal journey myself, as a single girl who has come free from a toxic relationship because of a series of coincidences involving a special person.
Thanks Karen for your great story and I wish you and your family happy and spiritual lives!
May 7th, 2008 at 8:45 pm
Thank you Liang,
I’m glad that you enjoyed it. It really is powerful stuff and I do know that we are all connected.