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Somebody Else’s Idea of Perfect
By karen | May 26, 2008
A week or two ago I went out on one of the first dates I’ve been on in years and years. I know, old…I mean young married women aren’t supposed to be out dating but this incredibly handsome man asked me out and I said “yes”.
So we dropped the kids off at Grandma and Grandpa’s and headed out on the town. Yes, in our family that is the definition of “date”, going out without the kids!
After a wonderful dinner we saw a great movie. Not “Academy Award” great but rather “Romantic Comedy, Chick-Flick” great, the kind you buy and watch again and again later. When it comes out on video we will definitely add it to the collection. It was a great movie.
There was a poignant line in the movie that struck me. The leading lady said something like
How many times do we do that? How many times do we let someone else’s idea of how we should be living change our lives? We are the only ones who know of our lives, our preferences, our hopes, dreams and desires, yet we often see and hear of people who abandon who they are to accommodate somebody else’s idea of who and what they should be.
And what does that do to our Souls?
One of the most insidious ways that others tend to dictate our lives is when the lay on the “God” guilt trip. God doesn’t want this, God doesn’t approve of that, you need to come back to God, God wants you to live like this, He doesn‘t want you to live like that! The promises of heaven are only available to you if you live like this. God doesn’t let people into heaven who live like that. You are going to Hell if you don’t comply with this precept, conform to this idea, complete this ritual, deny this sin that you are living in.
So how does that make you feel?
In order to create your best life you need to live authentically, according to your own preferences and desires, and not living to please someone else and yes, I‘ll say it, not living to please the idea of God.
God created You as You are. We are all perfect in all our imperfections.
In order to create your best life you need to feel good. You need to feel good about yourself, about what you are doing, about the way that God created You. No one else knows your purposes. No one else knows your life. It is just You.
When you deny who You are (because of God or any other reason), are you not denying the part of God that You are?
Somebody else’s idea of Perfect is not right for you. You will only be happy when you discover your own ideas of the joyous life that you want to lead and start living according to the dreams and desires of your own heart.
“To be nobody but yourself in a world that is doing its best to make you just like everybody else means to fight the greatest battle there is to fight and to never stop fighting.”
~ E. E. Cummings~
American Poet and Painter
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Nobody else knows your reason for being. You do. Your bliss guides you to it. When you follow your bliss, when you follow your path to joy, your conversation is of joy, your feelings are of joy — you’re right on the path of that which you intended when you came forth into this physical body.
~Abraham-Hicks~
Excerpted from a workshop in Houston, TX on Saturday, January 5th, 2002
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Others cannot understand the vibrational content of your desires, and
they cannot understand the vibrational content of where you are, so
they are not in any way equipped to guide you. Even when they have the
very best of intentions and want your absolute Well-Being, they do not
know. And even though many of them attempt to be unselfish, it is
never possible for them to separate their desire for you, from their
own desire for themselves.
~Abraham-Hicks~
Perpetual Flip Calendar ~ May 18th
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May 29th, 2008 at 8:26 am
Hello Karen,
Shanna here Aaron’s girlfriend. I wanted to say hi and see how you are doing with P90X? Man i am just loving the hard workouts.
Well have a great day, I was thinking about you and asked Aaron last night if he had heard anything new from you lately.
Shanna de
May 29th, 2008 at 9:47 am
Hey Shanna,
so great to hear from you!
Yes, I am absolutely loving P90X too!
I’m really incorporating it into my lifestyle and I really enjoy it!
Thanks for stopping by!
May 31st, 2008 at 2:45 pm
This post really reasonated with me and in fact it was eerily similiar to an email I sent to someone who was interviewing me.
I couldn’t agree with you more about how the concept of God as being something to fear was beaten into our skulls while growing up. Luckily I broke away from that thinking and know that God loves us unconditionally. That he wants great things for his children of the planet we call Earth.
You ask good thought provoking questions for those of us who have forgotten and for the others who are “aware,” you’ve given them a chance to be reminded.
Enjoyed your post!
June 4th, 2008 at 5:00 am
“God created You as You are. We are all perfect in all our imperfections.”
I used to have the traditional view of “perfect.” For example, a 10 out of 10 on an exam. But I’ve since realized that my old view of “perfect” was merely an accurate sub-set of a larger view of “perfect.”
Now, I view “perfect” as meaning, “Cannot be improved.” Some may argue with the semantics, and I understand their points… some may not agree that a blind person who will never see is “perfect,” but I ask - is it not perfect if their eyesight cannot be improved?
Anyway, this new view has enabled me to live in the moment much more easily. If I’m stuck in traffic, I can ask myself, “Can this moment be improved?”
No.
The moment cannot ever be improved… it cannot be any different than it is… because if it was supposed to be different, it would be!
June 7th, 2008 at 11:32 am
yes, Chris, every moment is perfect in that “it is what it is”
I’m reminded of “the Work” by Byron Katie…she speaks of that same thing..loving the moment, enjoying the present, being in the Now…
Stephen,
Thank you, thank your for being a reader! I so agree with you also…I don’t believe that God is something to fear and be afraid of but rather I think that God is something to look to for benevolence and unconditional Love….